Equation Of Understanding

Hey readers!

Its been somehow a long time since I have actually been able to communicate the wider side of life, though I have been writing poems to express the same but I wanted to come up with something more direct and explanatory. Today I will tell you something about the 'greater understanding of life'.

 

Equation; Equation of life has got nothing to do with the equations of mathematics, geometry or physics. It is something related to life which can be understood in terms of an equation. When I say equation of life, it includes many components such as understanding, love, satisfaction, growth, maturity, etc. for which it is mandatory to first get acquainted with the components one by one. The most and essential component being "Understanding". It again has got to deal with various areas to achieve "Greater Understanding". Let us know about them in brief:

• Understanding self - If we set priority in flow of understanding life to achieve greater understanding, the first in this would be to understand one's own self. Now understanding of self comes from:

1. Introspection - deep reflective thoughts just to know the true you as in your behaviour towards others and your actions in day today living.
2. Knowing your positives and the negatives.
3. Critically analyzing what others feel and say about you.
4. Knowing your desires and passions and the way you can fulfill them.
5. The key problematic areas in your nature if any and how you can improve upon it.
6. Knowing and realising the materials/persons/places/actions/words that make you happy.
7. Understanding and reacting to the good vibes around you.
8. Most importantly, knowing and understanding your daily routine and chores.

• Understanding people - After you are well acquainted with your self, the next thing to understand is about the people around you. Understanding the people is again very important to establish smooth communication and bond between any two individuals - be it your mother, father, brother, sister, friend, boyfriend, girlfriend, uncle, aunt, husband, wife, etc. and it can be done in the following ways:

1. Whenever you happen to meet someone or know someone do try to understand their body language first which is always the first step to know someone as a person's body language speaks a lot like we all know and a first impression is the last one.
2. Try and know the person's actions and reactions deep enough before you actually judge a person and never ever judge a book by its cover.
3. Study the person's psychology and thought process and attitude which can be done in the first meeting. You can only do so and conclude over a certain number of consecutive encounters or meetings. 
4. Sometimes one gets intuitive about the nature and mind set of the person from before hand itself and this ability rests with only few people who are patient listeners and observers. They tend to develop a greater understanding of the people they meet every now and then with time in one go itself. 
5. Reading minds again not everyone's cup of tea, only a patient observer can do so and there are some people who take interest in knowing human psychology which is my interest area too; such people make note of even the minutest of the actions and reactions to conclude.
6. Try to discover the positive and the negative in the people to know him better. This essentially avoids any conflict or fight which may arise in near future.
7. Give time and space to them in reasonable proportion; without being too dictatorial or possessive.
8. Nurture and grow every small positive bond possible to make it last long with a smooth understanding.

• Understanding situations - When you have successfully understood yourself and the people whom you interact and deal with everyday, you need to develop a thorough understanding of the situations surrounding you too. There can be various situations and your reactions and understanding towards them will depend accordingly. Some of which are:

1. Suppose you have had a break up and its has been 3 long years now; even if you are friends which is rarely possible, then you stop intervening in each other's life and respect each other enough with their own lives and give them space. Sometimes you are hardly aware of each other's personal life in such cases but you guard yourself enough not to be imposing or over reacting on small things. And most importantly, it may happen that after such a long period of time since you may have had your break up, you may hardly be bothered about that person anymore.Times change with that the people and the situations. So one is required to act accordingly understanding the situation. Once you stop caring --> you stop interfering --> you are at peace and actually you have your own life to look at.
2. Suppose you are in love with someone and it has been 4 years together now, then you can obviously expect things to be transparent between you both which again is based on understanding between the two and how they have nurtured their relationship so far.
3. Suppose you have a love interest and you are not sure of the same feelings from the other side as well then you can't be imposing your own feelings as long as it is mutual and you are absolutely sure without any confusion.
4. Suppose your mother usually finds you whiling away your time and not studying and is not aware of your studying hours at night and shouts at you one day because of this, then you must understand their situation and tell and explain them the fact they are not aware of instead of being arrogant (common in today's generation).
5. Suppose your enemy is a close friend of your best friend, then you try and understand the situation and avoid bitching about him/her to your bestie because every individual has the right to his/her friends and you cannot impose your experiences on them but you can just advice at the same time. And it may be possible that your enemy is certainly in the good books when it comes to see through the eyes of your bestiee. In such cases, you avoid bitching as there may be danger of spoiling your own bond with your friend.

There can be n number of such situations and the very understanding of the situations is essential before we deliver actions and reactions. And the equation that comes up when we are through all the three sects of deeper understanding is:

Understanding Self + Understanding People + Understanding Situations

= Greater Understanding of LIFE + *PEACE*

(Mantra of life)
:)

                                                                                                                   -Phalguni Bose