Hey readers!
Obsession of 'Relationships' is something we all suffer from. Relationships provide stability to our lives. Now when I talk about relationships, it does not mean 'a girlfriend boyfriend relationship only'. Absolute NO NO!! Relationships are something we build with each and every person we come in contact with in our lives over a period of time and it initially starts with developing our connection with our parents and it gradually grows into connecting with so many people we come across with. When we get attached to someone or something what usually comes to our mind ?? We always want that thing or person to be with us forever in our thick and thin. Isn't it ??
The common stress we all go through is the difference of opinions which might come up every now and then when it comes to maintaining relationships. The biggest hardship a relationship suffers is it becomes monotonous after a certain phase of time given to constant routinely endeavours to boost it. Its human nature to demand change. Given to absolute no change may lead to frustrations, disappointments, irritability, quarrels etc. But ofcourse we do treasure the ones we care for. LOVE is something which brings us and keeps us together in all hardships. We all want a stain free relationship but the question is "Is it that easy?"
Well definitely not. All your 365 days in a year can never be the same, all your 30 days in a month can never be the same, all your 7 days in a week can never be the same, all your 24 hours in a day can never be the same just like all your 5 fingers can never be the same! Sometimes there are hard times, tough times, rough times and harsh times. On the other hand, sometimes there are jolly good times, happy times, lucky times, sound times and great times. We all have to go through the BITTER and the SWEET at some or the other point. What I am here to write about is how some dark hours in our relationship can benefit us.
You all must have gone through a phase where you may have seen ups and downs in your relationships specially when it comes with your boyfriend or girlfriend. But somehow when there are prolonged disagreements or disputes in a relationship they somehow turn to be in our favour I believe. This is my personal experience as well that it may happen that you may end up not talking to each other due to some differences but in the long run you start missing each other. You start craving for each other. Dreams of that person start to haunt you every now and then. Guilt thrives in within you and you want to make up for the differences just to get that person back. Similarly, the other person also feels and wants you where the basic need then becomes is expression. Then the moment you go across to express and forgive each other, you find that things have become more smooth and better than before. You find that months of nil communication has somehow benefited you and strengthened your relationship. Yeah but sorry to say it rarely works in case of break ups unless and until there is existence of true love and desire to be together. The situation what I am talking about here is when there is a cold war between you and your lover or disagreements leading to communication gap etc.
The most adored and required relationship is of "Friendship". We all love our friends and treat them like Gods when it comes to seeking advice :P (in special reference to teenagers) I remember having a fight with my best buddy just to due to some sort of differences and believe me, we did not talk to each other for 2-3 months! And when its your best friend like soul-mate you definitely won't resist talking but we did and ended up talking finally where I took the initiative and to my surprise she was just waiting for me to talk to her. This brought us both immense happiness and it was all the more a better relationship we build and things have improved way beyond thoughts. I just can't imagine life without her. She is like my soul-sister and since I don't have a real sister, you can consider her no less than that. Similar situations happened in case of another bestie of mine and we ended up talking realising we missed each other terribly! :D
Those are some of the Good things and good times what life can give you. :D
Then ofcourse the blood relations specially talking of our parents. No doubt we all have discrepancies some or the other time but we never leave them whatsoever. They are the ones who support us being aware of our faults even. You always tend to realise what you should have or not said to your parents after you have done so and this obviously brings you more close to your parents. Happy times surmount, only there is a need to search and believe in it. These were the examples only of some significant relationships that exist in all our lives. Other than this we do have many relationships to deal with in our lives, the formula being the same for all and sometimes we need to leave it to fate believing that 'feuds do strengthen relationships'(if ever they happen)! Its just that I am being a bit positive and trying to show you the positive side of things, no doubt every coin has two sides but one must keep faith-cum-trust in your heart and distance does make you realise things for the better. Just do away with the bitter feelings and "Keep love in your heart 'coz a life without it is like a sunless garden where the flowers are dead". :)
-Phalguni Bose
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